Anas bin Malik (ra) reported that the Prophet (saw) said, “There are three qualities whoever has them, will taste the sweetness of iman: To love Allah and His Messenger (saw) more than anyone else; to love a slave (of Allah) only for (the sake of) Allah; and to hate returning to infidelity after Allah has saved him from it as he would hate to be thrown into the fire (of Hell).”
True love #1 is to love Allah before men. To love Allah with zero conditions and to be attached to Him and only Him, not your spouse, not your kids and not even the dunya.
True love #3 is to love someone for the sake of Allah. I mean obviously the hadith doesn't apply to just spouses. But imagine being married and loving your spouse purely for the sake of Allah (not for the sake of love, lust or your desire sake) - can it get any more beautiful than that? T.T
(The best way to love a lady
Is to keep your distance from her.
Then approach her wali.
And make dua for her.)